RELATIONSHIPS AND CONFLICTS

ESSENTIALS OF A RELATIONSHIP

Relationships are paramount to human existence and every relationship formed is beneficial to our growth, goal and purposes. People come into our lives at every point in time and have their various parts to play. We downplay people's role in our lives and tag some people toxic or that our spirits do not agree with some other and forget to look at the bright side.

Humans are quick to tagging people that do not agree with their ideals or principles as toxic or say their vibe is negative but we forget that there are good and bad traits in each and every one of us and the way we interact in our relationships reflects those traits.

Do we ever think we're the toxic ones? Well nobody ever believes they're wrong and even if they do, they'll still switch the narrative to favor them. I mean have you ever wondered why I'm not the villain in my narrative? I think that is because we cherish the relationship we have with the party we're narrating the story to and as such preserve our image to them.

It's totally alright to distance yourself from people who you think aren't helping you grow and I don't think you should find offence in someone distancing themself from you as long as they do amicably and do not spread untrue stories. I mean your friendship might not have worked with that person but it'll work perfectly well with another.

I mean not all relationships last for a life time and sometimes the end of some of them is usually tragic. I also think the reason why some relationships are broken is as a result of pride and lack of communication. Inasmuch as it might sound cliche, communication is the bedrock of every relationship. It speaks your mind and concerns and it is where you understand each other but when an issue arises and the chain of communication is impaired that is if there is friction, it'll definitely affect the relationship.

When the relationship is affected as a result of friction in communication, one party must then never justify him or herself. When you justify yourself, then you are saying you both communicated and understood each other and both agreed that you are right and if it comes to the point where you both agree, that means it's still possible for it to work but it never happens this way because most times when people justify themselves, they never understand the reason why the other party acted the way they did or why they said what they said and just assume they are the right one.

Somebody said something to me, " nobody can understand you more than you and you cannot understand another person more than the person" that is why communication is essential. Explain yourself to me, tell me about you and why you did this and at this point we need to drop our pride and ego and understand the person's points and reasons. All in all, communication is key is not just an easy to read sentence, it's the truth!